QuantumLove (Lynne McTaggart), talking about wholeness, presents some suggestions about improving relationships:
Consider yourself a vehicle of service to the connection between yourself and any other clown–no matter how different–and make that your goal, rather than being self-serving, being right, or getting something from them. Consciously connect with clowns who are not like you.
Open yourself to the highest good in the other clown and vow to trust them at face value.
Listen actively–with your heart, mind, and soul. Focus on how the other clown describes things, what is emphasized, body posture.
Catch yourself when you are judging the other clown and examine your emotions when you do.
Focus most on creating a relationship with the clown who is most in opposition to you.
Uncover the hidden connections between you and other clowns. whether in your faith, your locality, your sex, or your local or national interests.
Look upon those clowns with opposing viewpoints as “we” who are attempting to solve a problem together through a “third way”.
Share honestly and reveal the deepest aspects of yourself when you interact, rather than engaging in superficial chitchat. Encourage other clowns to do the same.
Observe how a different perception of Clown Nation develops when you and the other clown share deeply.
Allow different realities simply to coexist–again without being judgmental.
Engage in differences creatively for greater possibilities.
During differences, seek to change the space between you. Change the energy that flows between you by changing your tempo, your attitude, your facial expressions. Make your body language and unspoken communication transmit your desire to commit.