FlowingLove suggests that parents help young clowns prepare for becoming part of “we” by giving encouragement and opportunities that help them develop mindsight skills (Micko ads, Lovesight skills).
According to FlowingLove, parents should help young clowns adopt an open, receptive state rather than a closed, reactive state.
A way to do this is to tell young clowns you will be saying two different words and ask how they feel in their bodies. First, they harshly say “no” several times, then they repeat “yes” several times in a gentle tone, and ask how they feel in their bodies after each word (most clowns feel the “no” word feels stifling and angering, and the word ” yes ” feels calm, peaceful, and light).
Explain that the “no” word triggered their foght-or-flight system, being more reactive, and making it almost impossible to connect in an open, caring way.
But when we’re open and receptive a different set of circuits in the brain becomes active, which is called our social engagement system.
FlowingLove suggests that over time you help your young clown become open to relationships and help them develp mindsight skills that will let them join with others. This can lead to resonance, a way of joining from the inside out that will allow them to develop meaningful relationshps.