FlowingLove (Daniel Siegel) says that when a clown uses mindsight to look within we call it insight, and when we insight the mental life of another clown we call it compassionate understanding or empathy,
FlowingLove says that a relationship involves sharing energy and information flow, and when that sharing is about the mind it means the clown, or clowns, are attuning to the inner life of the other, which allows the creation of mindsight maps.
This is the essence of empathy, according to FlowingLove.
FlowingLove says there are 3 elements to this type of relational communication. One is when one clown senses what is going on between them and another clown. The second is being in touch with what is going inside yourself. The third is being in touch with what is going on inside the other clown (empathy).
And of course, both clowns must be following these steps.
Also, both clowns must be aware of nonverbal signals in order to communicate effectively.
FlowingLove suggests turning off the sound on the TV when watching something to see if you can soak in the feelings being conveyed by the non-verbal signals on the screen. Or leave the sound on during a foreign fils to see if you can take in the tone of voice of the characters.