FlowingLove (Daniel Siegel) explains how important it is to address ruptures in relationship, for instance an argument in which both parties are upset and thinks they were right.
FlowingLove suggest that one of the parties could initiate a reflective conversation by telling the other person they would like to reconnect, maybe apologize for their part of the disagreement.
It’s important that both parties let go of being right. Rather, eacn party must try to understand the other clown’s perspective.
FlowingLove suggests using “I” language, for instance “I felt that…”., rather than “You are the dumbest clown in the world”.
This is called an “I message”.